Why do people think that teenagers who have everything are spoilt?
December 19th, 2009 | by teenagers |
christie_crizy asked:
I would just like to know why so many people think that teenagers who have cell phones, posh cars, designer clothes…etc are spoilt? I have a friend whose father owns a company and whose mother is a forensic psychologist. Due to that, he owns a bmw z5, always wears designer clothes and has all the gadgets a teen guy would want. but he is very kind, generous, well mannered and very respectful. But there has been alot of stereotyping that teenagers who drive the latest cars and wear designer clothes are spoilt which i dont think is the case for some teenagers.
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I would just like to know why so many people think that teenagers who have cell phones, posh cars, designer clothes…etc are spoilt? I have a friend whose father owns a company and whose mother is a forensic psychologist. Due to that, he owns a bmw z5, always wears designer clothes and has all the gadgets a teen guy would want. but he is very kind, generous, well mannered and very respectful. But there has been alot of stereotyping that teenagers who drive the latest cars and wear designer clothes are spoilt which i dont think is the case for some teenagers.
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27 Responses to “Why do people think that teenagers who have everything are spoilt?”
By happyfacemommy on Dec 21, 2009 | Reply
teenager stories
I’m pretty sure SPOILT is not a word.
By Karibuboo on Dec 25, 2009 | Reply
parenting style
Programs like MTVs “My Super Sweet 16″ don’t help the image. I also knew a wealthy teenager who had everything when I was younger and she was very sweet and thoughtful. Truth is, people like this are the minority.
By rooney on Dec 28, 2009 | Reply
boarding schools
It’s a very simple concept, when you work hard for something you are grateful and not spoiled and know the value of that something.
When you are just given things, especially unnecessarily expensive things, then you are not grateful for them because you haven’t actually worked for them and you don’t appreciate the value of things as a result.
Most of these kids haven’t actually worked for these things, they may not have a job or do a lot around the house or have great grades and extracurricular activities. So they are being rewarded for no reason.
By srnkt_13 on Dec 30, 2009 | Reply
development teenager
it’s just most people that are like that act like that. I emphasize the word most. By the way i think it’s more girls than guys.
By ღஐ Queen B ஐღ on Dec 31, 2009 | Reply
psychology teenager
What is spoilt???
And really who cares there are other things going on in this world then spoiled teens
By Jillian H on Jan 2, 2010 | Reply
work from home
yeah the word is spoiled and yes i do. i think that’s teh age where you should earn whet you get. i def don’t hink a teen should drive a bmw. as much as i would have wanted one i think i would have been too afraid i would smash it up. i think kids like that are not very greatful for what they have and start expecting things. i had a cell but i paid for it myself. life is not about materials it’s about life and love
By angela on Jan 2, 2010 | Reply
parenting teenager
It is stereotyping. We probably get this misconception because some tv shows and movies make teens who have everything appear spoiled and bratty. It’s like everything else, sometimes the stereotype fits but not always. That’s good that your friend has material possessions but doesn’t think he’s better than others. Not everyone is like that.
By M E on Jan 3, 2010 | Reply
teaching teenager
Have you met or seen PARIS HILTON?????
By twinkie.2006 on Jan 3, 2010 | Reply
parenting
Well being spoiled and having an attitude about it are two entirely different things. How do you think he would react if he really wanted something and his parents said no? I have a teenage sister who has everything and she is totally awesome until my mom or dad say no to something she wants.
By cat woman on Jan 6, 2010 | Reply
young teenager
come on darl, if that is not spoilt what do you call it then???
to me anyone that can buy items like that are spoilt.. ok they may have great jobs, but they have earned what they own also…. sure it would have been nice for me to grow up like that, then people would have said the same about me.. but i like the way i grew up, as i have learnt to appreciate what i have got.. i hope you get the answer you wanted.. best of luck..
By Analyst on Jan 8, 2010 | Reply
teenager family
I think teenagers who get everything are spoiled. Those who have everything are spoiled because they get everything. Having rich parents do not mean he has to get everything that money can buy.Here is were the spoiling comes in, he might be respectful etc but it does not mean he is not spoiled.
Think about what spoiling a person really means!
Poor kids can also be spoiled!
By mommy_to_mason2006 on Jan 10, 2010 | Reply
dealing with teenager
I could have everything I want. I am 17 and live in my own house, that my mother owns, for free. BUT there are conditions, this is only while I continue my college career. My mother gets me a lot of things but there are always conditions. I have designer clothes, BUT I can either choose from a few outfits at a time, or a lot of cheap ones. I choose the designer. I have nearly 150 jeans and pants, but they are within the past 4 years. I have the car I want, but I make the car payments. My mother doesn’t exactly spoil me, she gives me things on conditions so I don’t learn to take her for granted, and so I know the value of things, and how wonderful it is to say that something is actually mine, that I paid for it. I was always told I was spoiled growing up, from people that didn’t even know my lifestyle, just because my mom owns a few businesses and real estate. I’m not spoiled. I’m thankful for everything I have. Having a lot of things doesn’t make you spoiled, at least here in America. Compared to the African children that have no shoes and take care of their brothers and sisters b/c their mother died of AIDS, yes I’m spoiled. Are we spoiled compared to the celebrities? no.. its just a chain of spoiled people. And we aren’t at the top, so people should stop complaining
By miranda - on Jan 10, 2010 | Reply
parenting advice
stereotype is when you take a group and assume all members of the group act a certain way b/c most of the members act that way. people think that kids w/ alot of material things are spoiled b/c most kids w/alot of material things are spoiled. just like you assumed “everyone” thinks kids like this are spoiled. when in fact some people don’t base material goods as an indicator of a spoiled child.
it’s just that a stereotype, it doesn’t mean all, it simply suggests most. what really counts here is how you feel. he is your friend and the way you treat him will mean more than the way others do.
best wishes
By cutie on Jan 13, 2010 | Reply
school
spoiled is when you get everything you want so if you are getting everything it means your spoiled. i spoil my sisters i give them everything. but theirs a diffference in being spoiled and being a brat about it. there are people who are stuck up while others are humble about having everything.. and if you have everything it means you are spoiled.. duh
By sarah r on Jan 14, 2010 | Reply
baby teenager
I think the image is because of the spoilt teens that are like that. For example on My Super Sweet 16, these girls don’t have a clue what it’s like to have to work day in day out for a living- and they think the world evolves around them. But, just like every steriotype, not everyone with money is like that. For example, lots of people think teens are all trouble, when in actual fact many are not, its just the ones that are get recognised, so they are all seen as trouble…kind of unfair i guess.
By baby gurl on Jan 18, 2010 | Reply
baby teenager
It’s a very simple concept, when you work hard for something you are grateful and not spoiled and know the value of that something.
When you are just given things, especially unnecessarily expensive things, then you are not grateful for them because you haven’t actually worked for them and you don’t appreciate the value of things as a result.
By bakesomebread on Jan 21, 2010 | Reply
stress
because some of us have to work for every thing in life and still never reach that point. I am 17 and I am lucky to get ONE pair of NEW pants a year. the rest come from goodwill. the same things goes for shirts. I am 17 and I work, do college and high school at the same time, raise my younger siblings (my parents are at work so much of the time, I raise them more than my parents do), cook, clean, do laundry, and more. I don’t even have my own car. I have a very old computer that I have to share with my brothers. and my cell phone won’t even play any forms of music. I only have it for work purposes.
sometimes it is really hard on teens like me when others brag about how much they have. and we have so little. teens who have every thing like that is spoilt.
By ana g on Jan 23, 2010 | Reply
parenting tips
well for one…there is no need for a teenager to have such expensive things..thats why kids today dont understand the value of money because once upon a time when cars like the one mentioned above were EARNED and worked hard for, kids now just recieve…but having said that..i also think that you can be spoiled and still be a well mannered person….but most teens who are spoiled tend to fall into that stereotype…
By fizzygurrl1980 on Jan 26, 2010 | Reply
teenager help
It is a common misconception that all kids who have nice things are spoiled. My mom always said, “My children aren’t spoiled- they’re cherished.” However, there are a lot of spoiled brats out there who do have all the nice things like you mentioned, and they give the nice kids who happen to have those things a bad name. My brother and I were not deprived of anything in our childhoods- we always had the nicest clothes and toys, different types of lessons, and when we were teenagers my mom made sure we had nice, new cars to drive, but we were always very well-mannered and not greedy. I agree- it is an unfair stereotype, but it is true very often too.
By julesl68 on Jan 29, 2010 | Reply
child development
They ARE spoiled, but not necessarily spoiled ROTTEN.
By musicpanther67 on Jan 29, 2010 | Reply
frustrating people
First off, I have to say to the person who says “Spoilt” is not a word look it up. Jesus, why insult someone when you don’t even know what you’re talking about.
As to this question it’s just the way it is. There are so many movies/TV shows that show teenagers this way. Some act like it and some don’t. It is just the way it is. Don’t worry about it.
By Mookler on Jan 29, 2010 | Reply
stress
The definition of spoiled is someone who has everything given to them.
By Kendra on Feb 1, 2010 | Reply
child development
I think it’s the case. You can be the nicest teenager in the whole damn world, but they can still be spoiled rotten, and pretty much 100% of the time it’s true. You grow and live your life always expecting or wanting something.
By J on Feb 3, 2010 | Reply
mother teenager
You’re right. It’s not the case for all teenagers but you have to admit that there are teens out there whose parents buy them every material luxury who are not generous, kind or well-behaved. Unfortunately, those are the kids that give teens a bad rep. My personal opinion is that a lot of kids nowadays are not always given the chance to learn what it is to really earn the things they have. My first car was a 10 yr old Buick but I loved it because I had earned every penny that it took to buy that car. I was buying a lot of my clothes by the time I was 16, not with my dad’s credit card but with money I earned from working a real job. The kids that get everything they want just by asking for it and not by working for it aren’t learning what it is to earn their own way in the world. That being said, I don’t think that a teen whose parents make a half million dollars a year should have to wear Walmart clothes and drive a Ford Fiesta. It’s a different lifestyle than most of us live. But for the parents who give their kids every material possession without teaching them a strong work ethic, they’re not doing their children any favors.
By Chuck Norris on Feb 4, 2010 | Reply
development teenager
because people are jealous that others are rich and they are not
By LaDy Qi on Feb 6, 2010 | Reply
child teenager
there’s two kinds of spoiled: 1- where u get lots of stuff, which doesn’t automatically mean that u have a spoiled personality
& 2- when u have a personality that u must have what you want when you want it. & you don’t have 2 be rich…i’ve seen ppl who r dead broke & still spoiled…
it depends on how the parents raise them
By cherie on Feb 9, 2010 | Reply
father teenager
just because he’s kind and generous doesn’t mean he isn’t spoiled. he didn’t really earn those things did he? his parents just gave them to him.